What I Felt When My Child First Said, ‘I Love You’
February 12, 2021
February 12, 2021
Do you remember the first time you heard someone special say, “I love you”? What did you feel? How did you respond? What was happening in that moment?
While our families at Hopebridge feel the love from their kiddos, some of them do not have the opportunity to hear it spoken out loud because their children are nonverbal or have social challenges related to autism spectrum disorder (ASD). These parents and caregivers experience affection in other meaningful ways, but the wish for more is often there.
That is why the verbal “I love you” moment was so exciting and heartwarming for the mother of one Hopebridge kiddo. At nearly 3 years old with a bit more than six months of autism therapy in our centers, young Isaac recently surprised his mom with the phrase every parent yearns to hear.
His mom, Kancise, was buckling him in the car seat, gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him, “I love you,” just as she would every day. This time, however, he responded with “ah uh ooo” which clearly sounded like he was trying to repeat what she had said to him.
She instantly snapped her head to look at him! She originally thought she imagined it, but she looked at her boyfriend, who immediately said, “did you hear that?”
Kancise practically jumped for joy, crying the happiest tears as she whipped back open the door to shower her son with tons more kisses and show him all her love.
“I was bawling. He could tell what a big deal this was, as he had the biggest smile on his face after noticing my excitement,” said Kancise.
She couldn’t wait to share the news with her own mother as they were on the way to her house. Once they arrived and she heard about the special moment, Isaac’s grandma began to cry, too.
They both worked in an attempt to hear him say it again, and while he didn’t repeat it again that day, it does not take away what a wonderful gift the moment was for Kancise.
Isaac is a smart kiddo, which his mom tells us is the first thing people notice about him. Even before he turned 2 years old, he could lay out all the letters in the alphabet and now he can do it backwards. He can also successfully piece together 500-piece puzzles in a half-hour, knows all of his body parts, and has memorized every syllable in many of his books. Like most other children his age, he adores everything related to “Baby Shark” and Dr. Seuss.
Kancise tells us that when Isaac began therapy at Hopebridge’s center in Miamisburg, Ohio, he was completely nonverbal and struggled with apraxia, a motor speech disorder that makes it difficult to speak.
“He didn’t talk at the time. Some gibberish, but other than that—nothing. He already had an autism diagnosis and had previously participated in speech and occupational therapy, but still wasn’t saying anything,” said Kancise.
Isaac’s parents met with his therapy team to set goals focused around talking. Since beginning a personalized, interdisciplinary program of applied behavior analysis (ABA therapy), speech therapy and occupational therapy at Hopebridge, Isaac has broadened his communication skills.
To get to this point, Isaac’s therapy team collaborated to incorporate the Picture Exchange Communication System (PECS) into his program of care. Once he was comfortable with this tool, they began teaching him sounds, working with him on imitating words, and eventually making verbal requests.
“Within weeks of starting at Hopebridge, Isaac started saying ‘mama’ and other small words,” said Kancise. “His words get a little mumbled so it’s more difficult for him, but people familiar with him can now understand 20-30% of what he says.”
Kancise told us they were not specifically working on the phrase, “I love you,” at the time he said it, which made it even more surprising. He likely heard her say it so many times a day until he was ready to repeat it. Isaac has verbalized it one more time since he originally said it to his mom, and she looks forward to hearing it more.
In addition to progressing in his speech and vocalization, Isaac has flourished in socialization and other areas of behavior.
His mother told us he used to experience temper tantrums often, likely due to possible sensory sensitivities and communication frustrations. Isaac’s cousin, who is the same age, lives with them while his mother serves in the military, and Isaac originally had trouble handling any noise he made. Since attending therapy at the center, the two get along better at home and Isaac has learned to walk away to calm down, when needed.
“One of the biggest things since coming to Hopebridge is that Isaac has opened up to so many more people. He always had a lot of people in his life, but really only connected with me, my mom and his dad,” said Kancise.
She told us he didn’t want anything to do with others and didn’t make eye contact. Now he participates in social interactions, makes eye contact and engages in play with others. His therapy team taught him to play with baby dolls and he loves to cover them with blankets and feed them bottles. Kancise expressed how happy she is to see how loving and caring he is now.
Does your child have challenges with communication or socialization? If you think your child could benefit from Hopebridge’s multidisciplinary care, contact us to arrange a diagnostic assessment or find out how our programs can benefit your kiddo and your family as a whole.